the two yous


The first step to knowing God's plan for our lives is the commitment to see ourselves as we really are.

examine the examiner

There are two yous--the visibile you and the real you. The visible you is the you that is known by others. We know intuitively from our experiences how to act and speak to fit in with our peer groups. We often act differently from one peer group to the next.

In high school I was involved in three different peer groups. One was the jock crowd. When I worked out with the athletes I talked tough and wouldn't smoke or drink.

Another peer group was the academics. I had been an honor student and liked these highbrows. We would discuss Darwinian theory and talk about the importance of science to the future of mankind.

The third group was the hell-raisers. All weekend long I would smoke, drink beer, cruise the drive-in restaurants, and look for girls. Frankly, I was nervous wreck around campus. When I walked the halls with one peer group, my eyes constantly darted around. I feared seeing a friend from a different peer group--then I would be exposed as an impostor!

Even though I portrayed three different people at school, a fourth Pat Morley showed up at home every day after school. I was a walking identity crisis!

The visible you is the known you. It is never the real you. We have learned to speak and act in ways that allow us to cope with our world and peacefully coexist. We work hard to project a certain image of ourselves to others.

The real you is the you that is known by God. We are who we are in our minds first, before we speak or act. Our speech and actions are the results of our thinking. Scripture tells us, "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" (Jeremiah 17:9). To protect our self-image we kid, trick, and fool ourselves into believing the visible you is somehow real. To see ourselves as we really are, we must acknowledge our inability to do so without God's help.

The mind is where the battle takes place. It's the battle between the majority secular life view and the minority Christian life view. Ephesians 6:12 describes this battle for the mind: "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."

Because we don't take this invisible war seriously, many of us are losing the battle for our minds. But we can win them back by committing ourselves to self-examination through the studying of Scriptures. You can know the real you, the you that is known by our God.

Patrick Morley

author, business leader, speaker

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